Monday, November 14, 2016

Sex, Lies and the Art of Depression

  Depression is a serious mental and emotional disease that can wreck havoc on the body.  Everything is spiraling out of control in an unhealthy way. I suffered from mild depression in my earlier years,as mention in my previous articles. When I was in a sad state of mind it led many lies, I lied to gain sympathy from friends and loved ones. It made me feel better, I wanted to be center of attention. Sex or intimacy with someone was another outlet to numb the pain I was feeling within myself., so how does someone cope with this problem? It wasn't easy nor is it easy for anyone today suffering from depression. Anything can be overcome even with its challenges if one just alter their way of thinking.  Training your mind to think the right way, so your actions follow.

 Reading, praying or what ever it is that you do to develop positive thoughts. This is what a person suffering from depression needs in order to overcome sadness or any type of doubt they feel within themselves.

Abusing your mind, soul and body makes depression worse even if it temporarily makes you feel good.  Having a sound mind, having peace of mind, knowing that everything will work out and that you are important will stir way of confusion and doubt. It will bring light to your life. You won't need approval from anyone, you be so content and confident in yourself. When you come to terms that everyone has flaws and refuse to compare, all your negative thoughts, discouragement and despair will be defeated. YOU can do this!  It takes mental strength and love for your self.

Here is a few reminders to help you overcome depression...

 Taking responsibility that your situation is not good.

 Examine your own problems before anything.

  Know that only you can rescue YOU!

  Understand that self pity will make matters worse.

 Taking responsibility for your actions and your life is crucial in managing depression, because you are taking steps to keeping yourself mentally healthy.   You have examine your own problems and know that only you can help YOU. Come to terms that self pity or sympathy from a love one is actually detrimental to your health, because they only will be enabling you instead of giving tough love.  Remembering that other peoples opinions does not define you. Be happy with yourself, love yourself and be content with what you have going on in your life.

You will never feel alone or not complete. You won't fill the need to resort to sex with someone else. You won't feel empty inside anymore or won't feel the need to lie to make others feel sorry for you. Instead you will fill whole, loved by the universe and have love for yourself most importantly.
Depression can be manage if you look deep within yourself and realize everything will be ok.

Saturday, August 13, 2016


 Midnight Blues

She comes in twelve midnight
with the blues
half drunk and corrupted
yet so confused
She drops on the couch
and pops a Marlbos cigarette
in her mouth
and a cloud of smoke fills the room
Mmmmm... She says to herself
Where's my man?
and here he comes
with his fedora hat, long black jacket
and his cane; fired up as he wanna be
he drops to the floor
and his red wine slowly escapes his hands

They got the blues..both of them
her an her man.

Poetry are emotions in the time being. I wrote this in the year 2000, it makes sense to the person who writes it and for the reader to interpret however you feel.  It's funny to me because when I look back and read I said where did the red wine come from?  and normally red wine is a drink women have. I guess at the moment he had the wine when I was writing and it just flowed that way. I hope this random long awaited blog put a smile on your face today.

Saturday, July 23, 2016

Are you earning what you deserve?

So I'm sorry it took me a long time to post a new article. I have been quite busy trying to juggle a lot. I join Avon, so now I'm an Avon representative/ independent consultant. Avon is about empowering woman all over, a community of women all over the world that helps boost our confidence and teaches us financial independence; something I bring up quite often in my blogs. To do something that you enjoy in order to become successful. So I think this maybe a good turn around for me and you as well. You can visit my e store to buy an sell. If you order online on my website your orders will ship directly to your door and greatly appreciated. You can create the life you want as well.

 So Are you earning what you deserve? Many people are working and not completely happy with what they take home. I discussed in "Lead a happy life" post about doing what you love if you are not currently happy. We all know it takes courage and not fear to take that leap of faith to do what makes us happy. The main reason a lot of people are not taking that leap of faith is because of money fears, lack of money to invest or afraid to lose money. They start off not making what they expected, but that takes time and dedication of course.  I read an interesting post called "5 tips to earn more money"  we all like to do what we love at our own leisure. To make that happen it takes time, it won't be an overnight success but it can be done.  Here's how:

Offer value. What I mean by that is offer your best work, the best information you can share that will benefit your clients. Give them solutions to their problems. Initially that's what we all want, to better our current situation. If we offer value and not price in the beginning you are developing a trustworthy clientele. They will continue to come back for more information. Sooner or later you will start earning what you deserve by doing what you love. Everything takes patience, dedication and motivation.

I can't stress enough to do what you love or at least like, to succeed. So many times I did jobs that just didn't make me happy so it became dreadful and literally made me sick. I couldn't take it no more to the point I prefer to be broke and happy than earn a little something at a job that made me unhappy. You can become successful doing something you really enjoy doing. Whether it's making and selling jewelry or art, teaching a dance class, maybe teach a sewing class or design clothes. Whatever it is you are good at you should do and earn what you deserve. Not from some mediocre job that does not pay you for the value you put out.  If you delivering good value and solutions to their problems you should get something back that amounts to your efforts.

Be passionate and really love what you do is very important.  You are motivated to do something you love right? When we are patience and dedicated to all the hard work that's put out, dreams will unfold into something beautiful. Your life will feel uncomplicated and almost effortless. It's almost as if your not working so hard anymore because you are finally doing something you was suppose to do from the beginning.

I hope this post helps you as much as it has helped me. You are my biggest supporters and motivators. A smile a day don't cost a thing if you can help someone else.

Friday, July 15, 2016

Fridays at Barney's

   I mention spending Fridays at Barney's in my coffee talk blog post.  It's my escape from reality, I don't necessarily go to Barney's to shop, I'm more of a  Bloomingdales type of girl plus the prices are a little more affordable on a good day. Spending a day at Barney's is a breathe of fresh air, sitting down in the cafe with an ice coffee and writing is a good thing, even window shopping for rockstyle items. Who said you can't sit in Barney's  and not purchase anything? I wish I can afford $2000.00 pair of shoes. Even If I did, I won't spend it on just shoes, it would be a few items to splurge on. I never use to understand why people would splurge so much on luxury items and it kind of disturb me in a way. As I got older I can now say why not splurge?

You have one life to live and if you can spend thousand of dollars throughout the year on coffee and fine dining, why not invest that money on luxury items, especially if you can sell back in times of an emergency.  That's why it's an investment. You can always buy to sell if you ever need the money. There are so many sites to sell your luxury pieces.  There's Posh, Vinted, Mercari, Tradesy and more. People sell there items back in hopes to purchase another favorite designer.

 Louis plus my Burberry love. Gucci and Chanel luxury brands are iconic and are timeless pieces. If you purchase they will never go out of style, EVER! Not only that but you really are saving money, by investing in luxury items than by purchasing randoms over an over once it falls apart. I learn the hard way, I think I rather be without or with something really worth it. Remember Audrey Hepburn from Breakfast at Tiffany's? Well she is we'll known for carrying a Louis Vuitton speedy bag in 1965.  She look effortless an classy. A simple trench coat and heels with a speedy bag, you can't go wrong. I spent so much money on random no name brands, not saying that these items are a waste of money but I feel that it loses it's shape and the wear an tear happens quickly. Even some name brands like kate spade that I purchase from Nordstrom wore out after two years.  Just two years. It's only smart to purchase a bag that will last forever, but if you like to waste money purchasing items that really has no value be my guest. I know I won't anymore. I just spend my Fridays in Barney's until one day I can afford a good bag. Hopefully before I turn 40 I be able to purchase the ever so famous Chanel bag.

The point is to be tenacious in everything that brings you joy, so that one day you can afford luxury items or to just do what ever makes you happy daily. I'm preaching to myself as well. So Fridays at Barney's can be more than just window shopping.

Ok going totally off topic, but I think I need to start vlogging as well because my blogs feel like a conversation between me myself and I and of course my readers. Leave me any comments below, anything you like or dislike. I take constructive criticism, it's all apart of learning.

Friday, July 8, 2016

Should we save money when life is so short?

That is really a good question because on contrary life is actually long.  Some people believe in living in the moment; going with the flow because we can't predict our time on earth.  So why save when we can just spend on frivolous things that would make us temporarily happy. Well for one, is because life is  actually longer unless a freak accident occurs.  When people assume something will happen, nothing does and will still be broke well into their seventies. I say seventies because that's the average life expectancy, but who wants to be working until their seventy.  I certaintly don't.

There are still seventy year olds working part time because their pensions and social security isn't enough to make ends meet. When really they should be enjoying life, no stress, and no rules. So saving is actually worth doing even when you feel life may take its toll and come to end. That is the reason we are saving, because life is very unpredictable. Not only are you saving for your future but for emergencies, expenses and maybe you just want to travel. You're basically investing in yourself and that's the best place to invest. I know saving first hand can be tedious and frustrating but I can assure you once you get into the habit of saving, it becomes addictive.  You may find that you pay yourself even more if your salary allows it; more than the 10% everyone saves.

There is a 365 day money challenge everyone is participating in that encourages everyone to save a nickel or a penny at a time. I myself have participated to see what all the hype is about.  Visit by Amanda Stewart. Basically by the end of the year you will have accumulate a little over $667.95 . I understand getting a second job will allow you to make that before the year ends, but for those who don't have the time for a second job to bring in extra income; this challenge is an awesome way to save. You learning to save each day rather than biweekly or monthly. I might add its fun and motivating.  We have to save, unfortunately I started a little late not embarrass to say but it's never to late. Some money is better than no money at all.  Save a little, spend a little or save a little and spend a lot :) some afternoon humor. In any case saving is vital like the air we breathe

Like I mention earlier life is unpredictable. Having that safety net for emergencies, such as losing your job, falling sick, anything in that matter will help you feel secured. It gives you some financial freedom to do what you need and want. Maybe you want to quit your job or leave your job for a while to try something else or live somewhere else. I'm considering that for next year, or the next two years. I would love to live in another country for six months to a year. I still get a little homesick in my thirties, so maybe just six months:)  Life may seem short with all the turmoil going on but really it is long and extra long with no money to fall on. Let me know how you save money, what are your challenges? We all need to invest in ourselves to be better individuals. To live how we want and deserve to live as humans. If we are slaving each day at work we should be enjoying life as well.

Saturday, July 2, 2016

Coffee Talk!!

So sometimes I may switch it up an talk random things, Blah Blah Blah. Fridays at Barney's and sipping some brew. Although, I'm not a huge fan of coffee I do like an occasional of that sweet creamy highly addictive brew.  Makes me feel not healthy but in a good way, if that make any sense. I guess to the loyal coffee drinkers it would.  People that I meet will ask, Do you drink coffee? An my answer will disturb them in a way as if my answer should have been yes, but I have my reasons why I don't indulge in coffee everyday unlike most people. Hey, whatever makes you happy and whatever makes me happy is my motto. :).  If i do have an occasional drink I would consider an ice brew, it's refreshing and it can be watered down to my liking; so I won't get highly addictive like every other loyal coffee drinker.

I find it so appealing to hear people complain as if they going to die without their morning coffee. Really? Maybe I shouldn't talk because my mom laughs at me when I can't go to sleep without a cup of hot chamomile tea. It relaxes my body after a stressful day, a relaxing day for that matter. It's a daily evening habit I can live without but prefer not to live without. So maybe I shouldn't knock your coffee drinkers out there, but I would say there are some good benefits of drinking coffee and bad of course. But I will deal with the good since my blog is based on making people feel good about everyday life.

We all know coffee do have some antioxidants that is good for the brain and heart. Researches, claims coffee is good for cardiovascular health and lowers the risk for heart disease and diabetes. coffee does offer some good benefits if consume the right way, not so much sugar an cream. I'm still going to sip my daily cup of hot tea every night but on occasion a cup of coffee won't hurt. Some coffee OVER HERE PLEASE! How do you like your coffee?

Sunday, June 26, 2016

Are you making your dream a reality?

 Live abundantly and not investing your time in something that excites you everyday is not living out your dreams.  Sometimes doing other activities that does not interest you or makes you unhappy can drain your energy an prevent you from actually doing something you really enjoy doing. Inspire yourself to live your dream life. No more excuses, because we all have so many excuses that prevent us from doing the things we love, that makes wake up every morning feeling alive and not miserable.  I mention in my very first post "Leading a happy life" how I wasted precious years serving other people when inside I was becoming sick everyday because I was unhappy. Now there's nothing wrong with helping others but sometimes you have to help yourself first, find yourself and your purpose in life to even attempt to help others.

Soon as I started blogging I felt a feeling of relief, a burden that was finally lifted off me. Although I haven't completely devoted all my time to blogging and still working a nine to five, I know it won't be hard to leave my job because I know writing makes me happy and others happy. It makes me feel good when someone's says my posts are inspirational to them because ultimately that's what I want my readers to feel. To feel motivated, fulfilled and not afraid to try something new or something different and to know failing is apart of life. Once you understand that, you will have no problem living out your dreams. Making your dream a reality should take no effort at all because it's something you enjoy doing. It shouldn't make you feel miserable or have feelings of doubt.

So are you making your dream a reality? Or are you playing it safe? Are you dedicating most of your energy and time towards something just to pay the bills and just to put food on your table. If you are, the bills will be here when we die and there is a nearest pantry in everyone's neighborhood who gives away free food. Thus far, making it very easy for us to spend most of our time fulfilling our dreams.

I'm in the same boat just as your. I'm writing for me and you. Each day and little by little I'm slowly but surely spending less an less time at work and more time writing. So I understand it's a little hard an scary to leave something we have been brainwashed to do to maintain what they call a "satisfying life". A satisfying life is when you start living, only than it's not a dream anymore. Here are some ways to start living your dreams.

1.  Let go of FEAR. Fear of being broke, Fear of what people will say and Fear of starting over.

2.  Be who you really are, be your authentic self .

3.  Believe Believe Believe.

Letting go of fear will allow yourself to make your dream a reality, letting go of fear period is the best way to live your life. Fear of being broke is the number one reason people stay at their 9 to 5 jobs, having that security is a necessity of life. To me it's not really being secure, it's playing it safe because  you feel their is nothing better out there to accomplish or to see. Fear of what people will say is another reason to dismiss that inner voice of yours to become something you were destined to become. People will talk regardless, if your doing good or bad. People will talk if your doing something productive or not. So it makes sense to do what you want when you want if it's not hurting anyone and initially makes you happy in the end. Fear of starting over is somewhere along the lines of having the fear of being broke. For some people starting over is starting from square one. All the work they done over the years was useless.

Are you making your dream a reality? You are if you are being who your really are as individual. If you're being authentic and not pretending to be someone your not. How else would you live out your dreams. Everyone have their own dreams an fulfillment in life, their own aspiration. No one is the same an pursue the same passions. Declare who you are an live it!

Believe Believe Believe in yourself. Believe in yourself when no one else will. Trust yourself an trust the gift you were given. You can't depend on someone else to live out your dreams. People will have their feelings and thoughts on why you shouldn't make your dream and your aspirations a reality. To some it may sound far-fetched, unreal and scary. Until you realize yourself that it's not than others may be inspired to live out their dreams as well. So what are you waiting for, are you making your dream a reality?

Saturday, June 18, 2016

Is jealousy really worth it? Or your happiness?

     I don't know how many times we as humans feel jealousy in our lives. That "greened eyed monster" that can consume our bodies an eat us up like a disease. Who wants to constantly feel that pressure, that constant envy in our lives. Some people experience jealously heavily an others not so much and some not at all. In any case, it's not a pleasant feeling to have.  I've come to realize jealousy come from numerous reasons an it can be conquered to live a content an satisfying life.  Just know that everyone is unique, with their own ability to be different. Comparing is the number one culprit of jealousy. So whats the solution to that problem?

      1.  Less comparing an more working on yourself.

      2.  Accept yourself as is.

      3.  Love yourself more.

     4.   If you're not happy with your life don't live through someone else's, make yours exceptional!

   Don't be afraid to find out the real you. Some people are afraid to discover something wonderful about themselves, like I was. Jealousy will make you think your less than someone else, that you can't do any better when you can do better, plus more. Just two months ago I realize how extremely smart I am, not to sound arrogant. I just know I'm intelligent enough to provide something valuable to your, something that would make you think twice about your current situation. Might I add I'm not perfect, I'm growing everyday as I write everyday. That include not getting jealous anymore, because I know what I'm capable of and who I am as an individual, so should YOU. Jealousy can make you feel and think something that's not even happening. Initially, your programming your mind to think something you shouldn't,

  I use to get jealous over a boyfriend having female friends when at the end of the day he was with me. So why am I getting jealous when he chose to be with me and why am I getting jealous over his friends. What's wrong with having friends? If he/ or she is mature enough they ultimately will make a wise decision. An that is to be with the one they chose to be with from the beginning. YOU!  Check out,  Alienation also happens a lot when your feeling jealous of someone else happiness. It will make you think long an hard about your own life and what you think you're doing wrong. I feel sometimes being around someone who has more an want more is great to surround yourself with because it motivates you to excel. I mention something similar to this in a previous article of mines. " Finding your passion" just remember just because something is working out great for some else do not mean it will for you. Be exceptional at what you do and have them thinking WOW! How can I get there.

 Sometimes having too many friends can create envy as well. That feeling of not having what your friend or even a family member have that you want. Don't worry about how that person got it, you worry about how you can get it, if that's what you really want. Be a go-getter in life! don't let fear paralyze you. You're  just as good as them, probably better. I have friends who enjoyed my company an I couldn't seem to understand why. I really felt like I had nothing to offer but that I was always there to hang out. Yes, I am carefree, spontaneous and used to be a daredevil  so that help. Come to find out I was great at giving advice as well.

 I was providing something to them, helping them go through life everyday. I didn't think it was good enough but to them it was because they always came back for more. So what I'm trying to get at here, is that you are important and your needed more than you account yourself  for. You have something that no on else has and that's being YOU. Don't think twice about if your good enough, know that you are good enough! No need to feel jealous over any one anymore. Be your own person even if it takes lots of mental work to convince yourself you are. Eventually you will believe you are.

  Be happy with yourself and accept yourself as is. Most importantly stay humble and jealousy can be a little tick than can easily be removed.. I hope I put a smile on your face today because you are uniquely YOU.    Hope to hear from you, leave comments or questions.

Saturday, June 11, 2016

How To Make Every Day Count

    How many times we heard " there's not enough time in the day"? All of us I'm assuming. If only we can find the time to do this an that and complete this project, we be a little happier. To appreciate the amazing gift of today. By living the way we want and not by how others want us to live. We all have a purpose in life and once we embrace our own purpose in life we can change the lives around us. Adding value to someone else life is deeply satisfying an purpose-driven. That's making every day count, every hour, and every minute of our lives.

  I don't know about your, but time is so precious to me. How we spend our days is important because we can't get that time back. Making time for our love ones, our commitment to our jobs and finding time for ourselves can be a bit much. Balance is important in order to make time for all. Here is some of the ways I try to make every day count.

      I pray every morning, write or exercise. As a matter of fact do what ever it is that you do that gets your day started in a positive, influential way. Make contact with your family if you live with them or without them.  Let them know how much you love them, your actions mean everything.  Let them know you're thinking of them. Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about- Wendy Mass. This is so important in life, we as people are so quick to judge especially for what we see on the outside. I guess it's human nature but it's not serving your purpose in life by judging or is it counting your blessings. Getting to know a person and their struggles before judging is actually helping that person in a meaningful way.

  Our biggest enemy for some is getting through the work day. How do we count our blessing and make every day count when we dread going to work? We'll for one, think about those who can't get up and out there beds on their own to go to work. Some people are dependant on others to help. They wish they can go to work, enjoy the sun, the rain, and the snow as much as we can. When I think of life in that way I do less complaining and be extra thankful.

  Lastly, an most important is finding time for ourselves. Neglecting yourself is the worse you can do for yourself an everyone else around you. You can't find time to help someone without helping yourself first.

      1.  Do what makes you feel good, like relaxing at the spa

     2.   Ride a bike alone or with a friend, to connect

     3.   Take a weekend get away if time permits an take it alone. Recommended for both men an women.

  It's essential to reconnect with your self. Making every day count is all about taking care yourself first to be able to help another. You made time for yourself, your family and you appreciate the things some people can't do like going to work an doing what makes you happy. I hope this post helps in every way possible as much as it helped me writing it. Remember, it only takes a smile a day to bring life to someone else's.

Tuesday, June 7, 2016

Finding your passion

     Finding your passion is not very hard, it's simply what you enjoy doing the most. It's what you do the best! What motivates you and make you feel alive is your passion.  Unfortunately, what we do on the day to day basis for some people is not our passion, it's something we have to do to pay our bills. But how can we find our passion and monetize it as well? So that our passion can be our escape from society. Well whatever people compliment you on the most is your passion because they feel that's what you do best. At the end of the day your passion fulfills your life and others. It's when you make the decision to be happy and broke for a while rather than being wealthy and miserable. An it's insanely possible to be wealthy and miserable. People have an abundance of money, yet still are unhappy.

    Some people enjoy being wealthy and miserable or should I say comfortable an miserable. Going to there undesirable jobs making enough or more money to cover their living expenses, but are they happy? I guess they are when the week is done an they receive their pay checks.  On the other hand, some people dedicated their entire time on their passion and don't bring in much income, but to them they are happy and fulfilled. To them they are rich in a sense that they know one day all their work will pay off an bring in an abundance of wealth, unlimited wealth.  Once you find your purpose in life you will want to dedicated most of your time and energy trying to perfect it so that it can benefit you an others. So who are you meant to be? What is your destiny? What drives you to move forward?

  For a long time I knew what I was meant to do. I envision myself as a writer one day I just never water the seed enough to grow. I did these 9-5 jobs that pay me for the day and I didn't feel complete as a person, something was missing. I knew it was a possibility that I can get laid off, fired or fall sick an I won't be getting paid indefinitely. Now your passion is what pays you indefinitely if you work at it, love what you're doing and share it with the world. It feels good to have something you can call your own. Just knowing that it's your decision to fire yourself from your job, take a vacation, come and go as you please or continue to create value.  Unfortunately, we do not have enough time to work towards our passion and work full time. It's either you work part time an dedicate most of your energy working towards your dreams  or the other way around, if you prefer the conventional way of earning money.

  I never want to work again like most other people, but under different circumstances it's a necessity in life or is it really? Like in everything else we have been programmed to think working is the only way to get ahead, to succeed, travel and live life to the fullest. On the contrary, living life is having the freedom to do all those things without working more than we suppose to. Be inspired to change an take risk!

  Your hopes and dreams  is your passion, what you think of first thing In the morning. What pushes you through the day, what you spend the most time on without looking at your clock every hour is your passion. That's what you should be doing everyday, all day in order to be fulfilled. Remember, some people may go against you if you start investing more time in your dreams. They may try an deter you but it's up to you to stay focus. What do you?

Friday, June 3, 2016

Official Summer

    Summer is officially here, that only mean bright colors an clear blue waters. It's the time of year to do what we said where going to do but couldn't in the winter. To finally reach higher heights in our lives an accomplish those goals,at the same time still have fun in the sun.
         I don't know about your but I have a lot to accomplish that's been put off for some years now. Yes! Due to laziness an procrastinating.  Something I have to change immediately, probably many of us. Most people live in the now stages, you know "living in the moment" so much to the point where nothing gets done. I can definitely vouch for that. I find that setting a routine in the morning actually does work an maybe it will work for you if not already. So here is my helpful tips for you. Let's accomplish those goals together.

 Read something positive every morning.

Reading something positive or watching something enlightening. Eliminate the tube early in the morning, the news is depressing an can dampen the spirit without us realizing it. It is design to deplete our energy before our day even starts.

.  Light stretching in the morning is helpful. It's providing openness an blood circulation before facing the day. Sometimes working out alone can be boring so involving someone else can be enjoyable an more fulfilling.

. Have breakfast that's going to provide energy for the start of your day an not give you a crash within the next hour.

Take brisk walks to work instead of transportation.

 We wake up with the feeling of not going into work, so walking is a good start to getting your energy up. The whole point is to prevent feeling lazy an stop procrastinating, an mild exercising is the answer.
. Power walking during midday is excellent

. Hitting the gym during your lunch break is another option. I have a cousin who spends her lunch breaks in the gym an she feels motivated to finish her day at work. Hey girlie!

 Be productive...

When we get into the routine of things, that is being productive. It's setting a foundation for the day.
It's not multi-tasking which can sometimes prevent us from completing one task first. If we can focus on one job first than move on to the next project, 80% of what we said we would do, be done.

.  Create a list, a short list. I say a short list because writing down a long list never gets completed for a number of reasons.
 A. Long lists is like multi- tasking, when we get frustrated on one task we jump to the next instead of trying to just focus, take a break, an get the job done.
 B. When writing a long list most people give up all together an don't even finish. They are burn-out. Many of times I created a long list an said " this is what I'm going to do" an never attempt to complete what I said I would, an back to square again.  So create a short productive!

Upgrade your circle of friends

Some may take an offense to this an others may not but the whole purpose of blogging is to be truthful an helpful. Like the old saying " you are what you eat" same thing goes for the company you keep. Personally I have people in my life who did nothing for me an that's partially my fault an than I have friends I can't even keep up with, an this motivates me to step up my game. It's entirely up to you who you surround yourself with, I would never disowned any of them after so long but I would limit my time with them instead.

.  Sometimes friends can be an distraction, how you suppose to accomplish anything when your friends interrupt your life to hang out constantly, or to follow their dreams. Don't you have dreams of your own? Don't you have your own life to live? An I'm just realizing this after 35 years on this earth. Let me rephrase that, I been was living my own life but I was living out others people dreams more than my own or at least I was trying to.

A.  Be who you are an live for yourself that's the only way to be productive as an individual. People have different schedules, different circumstances going on that requires a different lifestyle entirely. So focus on YOU!

B.  Try not to "keep up with the joneses" Pretending or trying to have something you don't can really hurt you an your pockets, if you know what I mean; but upgrading your friends from the circle you normally hang with wouldn't hurt either. That's one of the ways you can learn an grow, meet new people an see new things.

5. Now Happier an Fullfilled

I think we can now say once we accomplished what we put off for so long, we can relax an enjoy the summer officially with our friends, an possible new friends because it's that time of year to keep a smile on our face an live a simpler life. Do you agree?



Tuesday, May 31, 2016

Lead a Happy Life

You ever wonder why so many people today are unhappy? Unhappy with their life, their jobs, their relationships, just unhappy overall. How can we lead a happy life an have a smile a day, everyday? Live courageously an be proud of who we are an what we do as human beings. Well I am going to share with you my story an how I lived with depression in my twenties, well into my early thirties an how you can stop depression in its tracks an live the life you were meant to live. I was twenty-four an just came back from Puerto Rico. I graduated from college studying in Liberal Arts an didn't quite finish but was allowed to walk with the other graduates until I completed my courses. After graduation like most graduates who actually get their degrees can't seem to land a job in their field of study, I was just trying to get a job an might I add I had many but didn't last very long,but one. An it was a little too long if you ask me until the point where I thought I was destined for it. I got an job as HHA an home health aid, now I'm not trying to say this is a job no one should do or belittle anyone who does the job because I was one over eight years off an on an than consistently,but what I am trying to say is this job wasn't for me. An how did I know this? When a person wakes up in the morning dreading the idea of going to work that is a sign th job is not for you, career or what ever it is that is stagnating you from exceling in life. I know you probably thinking you could have work anywhere an I have but this job, any job in the health care is job that never dies cause everyday someone falls sick an need someone to depend one.      I bought value to other people lives which is a good thing an made them happy but I certaintely wasn't happy because it wasn't my calling. The job was dreadful serving others in my honest opinion it made me physically sick at times an when I tried to back out of it their was always some perk my job added to keep me a slave to the job. Now I'm a writer maybe not the best but writing keeps me going, makes me happy an alive. It's freedom of expression. I had my job as HHA to some people because I didn't enjoy it an most people such as family an friends knew I was a writer an didn't understand why I wasn't writing to begin with. I'm sharing this information with you an for those who are where I been to take a giant leap of faith. Don't be afraid of change or failure.
      Don't continue to be happy an live in a depressing state, if your determine to be happy chase dreams use your God-giving skills to help someone an help yourself to keep a smile a day on your face everyday.