Saturday, May 27, 2017

Gentlemen of a Scholar


 So today was my five year old nephews graduation from Preschool. Although it wasn't a college graduation, it certainly felt like one. Cap and gowns, drinks and cake, performance, pictures taken and speeches made it feel as if he was graduating from Spelman . Either way it was a good overwhelming feeling; and i'm sure he felt the same as well. You wouldn't think many people would participate in such an event for young children, because they have so far to go in life. I assure you to me this is one of the most important events because its an stepping stone and the beginning of a child's life. You never know what young children are thinking today and by you being present in such an important event means the world to them; more than you expect.
 
You hear the old saying when it comes to parents and children, "being present is more important than giving gifts" Children remember who was present in the life than who bought what. This is most certainly true. They never ever forget, and on top of that will certainly point out and remind you. So the evening of his graduation 5.24.17 was memorable because he is a gentlemen of a scholar. My uncle gave him this name because academically he is very studious, very inquisitive young man, very interested in learning anything new and fascinating to him. I'm a proud aunt. He makes me a better person because first off he taught me a lot of patience; something i did lack. My nephew Jordan wants me to always teach him something new and at the same time i'm learning myself, so how great is that.

Of course my other nephew was there watching his big brother move on in life and accomplished greater things; he is next himself. I'm not sure he understood at four years old what what was going on, but he knew it was and important day because the family was together; and for sure knows that his brother left preschool. Kindergarten here comes Jordan; the most smartest, influential and persuasive young man known to live. Yes at five he possess all these qualities, and he knows it smh. I know you will do extraordinary in your future endeavors because your an phenomenal young man and young scholar. Auntie and everyone who loves you want you to continue to reach for the stars! We all should encourage our young people to reach for the stars and to do better than what we did or doing at the moment; because it only gets better!

Friday, March 3, 2017

So long New York...


   No more congested streets of New York City, no more annoying honking horns and polluted air that have me thinking I just got diagnosed with asthma. Right now its all stress free might I add more sunny and fresh open air most mornings. It's not that I don't love New York anymore because its always going to be home away from home but right now in this point in my life I need time to think, relax and enjoy some me time and I feel anywhere out New York at this moment has a lot to offer as far as restoring myself. Time to recuperate and regroup. Your probably wondering where in the world I moved to, well Florida is where I relocated. Palm trees, sunny skies, and more friendly people. Sometimes it reminds me of LA. 
       
So far I'm enjoying rising without a care in the world, such as not rushing to work anymore or not having enough time to prepare breakfast. How annoying was that? Anyone living in New York can totally related. In reality I'm obsessed with the city, I love New York "Breakfast at Tiffany's" made its mark there; but right now its too cold and too crazy for me. The hustle and bustle of New York drove me away, too competitive in a lot of ways. Just give me New York in the summer, the free concerts, the block parties that officially died out years ago and the convenience of walking to the bodega for an everything bagel toasted with cream cheese. New York is a go-getter atmosphere, the big apple. In terms of getting ahead in life the fast way; and there's nothing wrong with that if you enjoy the rushing, getting bumped into and competitiveness that comes with rejections often. I know it may seem like I'm pointing out the negatives of living in New York but trust me its only because I'm tired of the city. At least right now I am, otherwise New York has a lot of perks that I haven't even taken advantage of.

      A big city, a beautiful city that never sleeps. If you want to go out in the middle of the night to meet with friends, bars will still be open. If you want to give a chance at auditioning for the next colgate commercial, why not give it a shot. If you want to make friends with an homeless person in the subways you have a better shot at that too. I'm just saying there is endless possibilities living in the big city. "If you can make it in New York City you can make it anywhere" the old saying. However, in some cases I don't think that is necessarily true. People adapt to differently, move differently and progress differently in different situations. The city may be too fast for someone where they get left behind and Florida may just be right for them as far as getting ahead in life and more effectively; so far I feel Florida has done good for me. I accomplished more in two months than i did in years living in New York. However, I'm glad I was born and raise in a city that never sleeps, I met good friends there, fell in love with a wonderful man, made mistakes that we all must make as humans, was cast as an extra in a commercial and a movie, partied hard, went to the best block parties in the nineties. I definitely found my mark in the city plus more that I cant even imagine but if you ask anyone that I know I'm sure they can share a story of me. So long New York until next time, you will forever hold a special place in my heart.
     
         

Monday, January 23, 2017

How relationships can save your life?


   Relationships is a stepping stone to how you want to be treated and how you treat others. I cant recall how many times a friend save my life with the help of God of course. Although some people perfer to be loners and be in solitude, which I consider myself at times; relationships can certainly teach you how to engage with others and build better versions of themselves. So how can relationships save your life? As a person who suffer mild depression I can say relationships,such as with my family and friends, and even boyfriends have made me a more grounded person. When I had issues with my boyfriends I vent to my girlfriends, they were my escape. They kept me centered as a woman. Having relationships teach you how to balance your life.

   Relationships with family is important as well. They are always your foundation, someone who always have your back. I can only say this to those who have relationships with their family or have a family at all. They will be brutally honest with you and sometimes the truth hurts. My dad is like that as well as my than boyfriend. I would ask their opinion on something  or they will just tell me something I should have done an I would get offended. Although, I know it will benefit me in the long run or make me a better person. You cant do everything on your own, sometimes you need opinions from others, and the help from others to grow as an person. Good criticism is important, its constructive criticism.

   I have a friend, lets just say her name is karrine. She would call me or be somewhere when I was in trouble or in need of help. She always came on time. I known her for about fifteen years now, she really is a good friend. Me and her have a good relationship, where as we don't need to see each other everyday or speak everyday to prove our friendship. When we do see each other its as if we never left each other. Those are the best relationships to have, that's the relationship that save my life whether she knows it or not.  I am not saying being a loner is the worst thing, because like i mention earlier sometimes I like spending my days in solitude.

     There is nothing wrong with solitude. Its the reason that I am alone a lot that saved my relationships as well. How can i explain this? when you spend time alone you learn more about yourself. You are able to think and become one with yourself. Alone time is the best time to me. When you are among people constantly, you will never know who you really are and what you're capable of.
      Once your able to be alone and feel comfortable with yourself you really wont find it necessary to be around people all the time, but when you do surround yourself with others its rejuvenating. A breathe of fresh air. You will know when its time to remove yourself to recharge and come back. That's the best feeling when you are able to be with friends, having the relationships you have and than go back into solitude to recharge. I think that is what you call and ambivert/ introvert. I know many people don't like to identify themselves in that way; but to give an example. There you go.

   I consider myself an introvert most of the times because I do need peace to recharge myself. Even with my relationships with my family and friends, I find I need to go in hiding after awhile to think and processed my thoughts. I honestly get overwhelmed and distracted. To reach my full potential, I need to be alone most of the times. That way when I do surround myself with family and friends they have my attention. Hope I am not going off topic here, but relationships and being alone plays an important role together. So really I guess the topic should be how being alone and relationships can save your life? what do you think? Do you consider yourself and ambivert introvert/extrovert? Do you enjoy being alone majority of the times or do you enjoy the company of others? And have your relationships save your life in anyway, as it did for me?
 
   Remember relationships are important to have a balanced life, well in my opinion. It brings joy, love sometimes sorrow but most importantly it teaches you the value of life.